hesler
|
|
2011-02-05 22-28-39
|
|
Here's a poser. This involves a few LTRs in my life: my bf, my ex, and my son. My bf and I live directly across the street from my son's school. Son has been having difficulties in his afterschool program lately, and one thing that exacerbates the problems is the fact that I can't pick him up until at least 5:15 every day. By that time, he hasn't eaten (no snacks that he likes offered at afterschool and he's not allowed to bring in his own), is tired & hungry & acting like kind of a jerk. On his days, ex picks up son at about 4:30. Those 45 minutes, it turns out, are fairly crucial to how well son is feeling/acting. Ex has offered to pick up son at 4:30, then hang out at my and bf's house until we get home. This is a bit . . . unsettling. I'm not sure WHY, exactly, and it's probably not rational. I don't think ex would go rifling through our stuff (or be overly excited by anything he'd find), but there's something territorial in me that makes the idea a bit disturbing. BF feels the same way, but agrees that if it's the best thing to do for my son, he'd set aside his ick feelings and let the ex hang here with my son. I have to say, my bf is awesome - I wouldn't deal nearly as well as he does if it were his ex-girlfriend this enmeshed in our lives. The thing is, ex and I co-parent our children pretty well, and we really want to do things cooperatively and in our ' best interests. This would be cooperate and in our kid's best interests, but it seems a little . . . too much. Your thoughts?
|